By Patrick Doyle, Founder of Veritas Counseling
Adultery is the byproduct of someone being completely self-consumed. No one ever gets into a situation of adultery instantaneously. It happens gradually as we harden our heart toward God until we reach the point of breaking our marriage vow. God said to Moses, “Okay. I am going to allow this divorce because of the hardness of their hearts.” The best antidote and prevention for adultery is intimacy with God. If we remain intimate with God, conviction will reign.
Adultery sneaks up on us. It is a process we rationalize a little at a time. It might look something like this: I am hanging out with a person. I rub shoulders with them and I think, “Oh, that probably was not right, but it didn’t hurt anything.” And then two weeks later I see them again and I give them a hug, maybe just a second too long and I think, “Well it didn’t hurt anything. There wasn’t anything wrong. I just hugged her. It is no big deal.” So slowly, we build a wall of denial, one brick at a time. Then all of the sudden we have the required hardness to take the next step. It is a rarity where somebody is in love with their spouse today and tomorrow having an affair. More often it’s people who never dreamed they would ever be able to do such a thing, church leaders and lay people alike who once said, “Oh, I could never do that.” But then over time their hearts harden and they find themselves sitting in my office saying, “I can’t believe I did it.”
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